Yes, we had plenty of infections and plenty of deaths. The year 2021 does not seem to be different especially when it comes to goal setting. While many people are dying like flies, those who make it have made it a goal just to survive. Many conspiracy theories about this novel virus are making their rounds. Many people are becoming anxious even from just having a minor cough or throat irritation. And so where does one find the time for this elusive goal-setting activity.
Be that as it may, one’s life has to continue despite the pandemic. I am certain that many of us have made time to set goals for 2021. However, we tend to self-sabotage those goals by not following up on them. Here are some of the reasons that make us not to achieve our goals:
Many of us do not know why we are living. We do not know who we are in the bigger scheme of things and we do not have the vision to live who we are. Not knowing this always makes us second class people in that we will set goals that other people are setting. Or we will set goals that are set out by celebrities on social media and other such platforms. We do not have a reason or a foundation for setting those goals. It then gets difficult to sustain an action plan of achieving these.
The best definition of discipline is one I heard from Bob Proctor, “Giving yourself a command and obeying it.” When setting your goal, you ought to follow through, making sure they work out. There will be no supervisor, or manager or CEO checking if those goals have been achieved. You are the last line of command. As such, only the goal setter will know the status of the goals set.
The goal of, say, losing weight has to be followed by a daily action plan. It is the small daily steps that help one achieve their goals. Without that daily action, there will be no progress. If there is no action plan the goal of losing weight remains a pipe dream. Therefore when you do your goal-setting activities, a proper plan of action is required.
Remember that when a person sets goals, those goals have already been achieved. The common phrase, “Whatever you can conceive, you can achieve.” What is most crucial here is what one becomes in the process of setting that goal.
A goal of having a million rand in a year can be achieved in many ways. One can rob a bank, one can scam people, or one can open a business and sell goods or services to make money. In all these available options, one will still make their millions. The question is: what have you become in achieving that million?
Self-destructive thoughts can prevent people from achieving what they have set to achieve. Negative self-talk like, “I have set this goal before but I did not go far with it”. Or, sharing your goal with people who will tell you that you won’t make it in this bad economic environment and believing them.
When self-sabotage sets in, try and replace every negative talk with a positive talk. Self-sabotaging might be a way of coping when one feels overwhelmed. For example, when smoking is used as a coping mechanism of stress, one can replace it with drinking water, or with a lesser evil of eating a sweet.
I wish you well with your goal-setting activities going forward and believe that you will take the reasons I have put above into consideration as you work towards achieving your goals. Should you need the assistance of a coach to help you set and better achieve your goals, contact us for more information.